Communicating with your soon-to-be ex-spouse during divorce can be difficult. While you should communicate through attorneys, you can handle some matters by yourselves, especially if the divorce didn’t stem from domestic violence or any other form of abuse.
Here are four tips to help you:
Be objective
When communicating with your spouse, you should be objective. Do not talk to them as if you are still in a relationship. You should control your emotions and view their opinions impartially.
Only talk when you are calm
Your spouse may argue about minor matters or speak to you disrespectfully. If this happens, politely excuse yourself or hang up the phone. You will communicate when everyone is calm. Being upset or using harsh tones can complicate your divorce.
Avoid unnecessary communication
You should communicate with your spouse only when necessary. For example, you can have a discussion when listing assets for property division or creating a parenting plan if you have children. Avoid digging up the past or topics likely to lead to a conflict. Let your spouse know beforehand about the matters you are willing to discuss.
Determine the channel of communication
You and your spouse should agree on how to contact each other. At the beginning of the divorce, it may be challenging to meet in person. Communicating through phone, email and text should work until you are ready for physical meetings.
If you and your spouse have decided to stay in the marital home until the divorce is final, you may be unable to avoid face-to-face conversations. Maintaining a cordial tone and only discussing divorce-related issues can work in your case.
Communicating with your soon-to-be ex-spouse can help you have a peaceful and inexpensive divorce. You should also get legal guidance to make informed decisions.