Children who learn their parents are going through a divorce may have difficulty adjusting to living in two homes. It’s up to the parents to ensure the kids have what they need during this transition.
You can help your kids make the adjustment to the changes in your family in several ways. Ideally, you and your ex will work as a parenting team to help them. Consider implementing these tips:
Tell the children together what is happening
You and your ex should sit with the children to tell them about the divorce. This builds trust and sets the standard that both parents will continue to be a team. It also ensures that everyone is on the same page about what to expect now that the divorce is becoming a reality.
Share special events together for the children
For some children, the biggest fear is that they’ll have to choose between their parents. Seeing that both parents will be there for important events can put them at ease. Parents should ensure they’re telling each other about important events for the children. Things like plays, competitions, games, and other activities should always be relayed to the other parent.
Learn to communicate as co-parents
Communication between co-parents is important. You and your ex should talk directly to each other about the kids. Anything contentious shouldn’t be discussed in front of the children. Always speak respectfully and never badmouth your ex.
Parents should ensure they do what’s best for the kids throughout the divorce. Working out the parenting plan can provide children’s needed stability. Setting the terms according to what they need now is important. You and your ex can modify the agreement as the kids’ needs change.